My ex forged my name on a $50,000 loan during our divorce

I married my college boyfriend. A nice Catholic I met in Scranton, Pennsylvania. I thought we had the same values ​​because we both had to wear those checkered uniforms in elementary school. I remember the things they taught us about good and evil because they were very similar to what my mother taught me.

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I don’t think my darling from Scranton remembers that.

Crazy, I know.

Yet I thought I had married an honest man.

Then I met this new guy who was also apparently my husband when we divorced – and he wasn’t such a good guy. He used the divorce as an excuse to do illegal things. Obviously, all is fair in love and war – at least wherever he was raised.

My own husband forged my name on a $50,000 loan.

This is considered grand larceny which is a felony.

Initially it was a lower amount and it grew exponentially because he made no payments. But it’s still big larceny and it’s still a crime, long before interest arises. Sounds amazing, doesn’t it? That someone would do that, let alone get away with it.

All because he was angry and trying to win a certain divorce result.

Do I know why he did it? Yes. He forgets what he told me for a moment of arrogance.

But that’s his fabricated story. He claims to have “no idea” they were going to put the loan in my name. It must have been an accident while he was submitting the paperwork. Kind of a good story. But it’s hard to feign ignorance by using someone else’s name because it requires filling in all their personal information and forging their signature.

Pesky details, I know.

And there is another thing.

His story might hold water if he hadn’t acknowledged the forgery in writing when he warned me not to tell anyone or if he hadn’t pulled out several credit cards in my name and affixed my signature on other documents. Or hid money from the business I helped him start.

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He was upset when I told him I was thinking of leaving despite ignoring my cries to work on our relationship. I was surprised by the words that came out of his mouth. I thought they came from a place of pain that turned into anger. I didn’t believe he would continue with them. Again, Catholic schoolboy and all.

“If you leave me, I’ll make sure there’s no money and you work for the rest of your life.”

Closely followed by:

“Who would leave the Golden Goose?

Money has become a weapon of divorce.

His best friend turned wife turned business partner turned mother of his children had crossed paths with him. In his mind, that’s it. And he would leave nothing to chance. He would lie, cheat and steal to leave me with nothing.

He even ruined my credit for good measure.

But it wasn’t enough.

He wanted to leave me in debt. It’s diabolical. Severe emotional and financial abuse during a protracted divorce was not enough. Destroying my credit until I was unable to qualify for housing or credit cards to meet emergency expenses was still not enough.

Saying I was just an employee turned mom while I built the business with him wasn’t enough. It is not enough to reduce income to meet needs. Leaving me with no savings and no pension because he started hiding money as soon as I expressed my displeasure, not enough.

My husband’s actions were deliberate.

At that arrogant moment, he told me he didn’t think I carried my weight. Being a wife who took advantage of him and a lazy stay-at-home mom and all. Again, in his mind. It was his version of reality.

Not the truth.

Unfortunately, there are no real consequences for tampering, theft, and illegal activity in a divorce – not even a crime.

In the event of a divorce, these types of crimes are not considered with the same scrutiny. They fall into the category of “misbehaving spouses”. They get slapped on the wrist but that’s about it.

My husband had to take responsibility for the loan because I had proof that he did.

He had to pay off one of the credit cards he took out in my name.

He had started the financial abuse of the divorce so soon that the other card he had stopped paying and had been charged off. His strategy was to pull out cards and make it look like I was a big spender and knocked him down.

I guess he didn’t think the stay-at-home mom would be wise enough to figure that out.

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Colleen Sheehy Orme is a national relations columnist, journalist and former business columnist.

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